Greta: Going off of that point, why, as a queer person, watch it all? What's the point?
Ingrid: I think part of it is a bit of voyeurism––it’s so far removed from our dating reality.
Toni: I mean, The Bachelor has always been the prime example of heteronormative culture on reality TV. We both love reality TV in general because of that voyeurism, because it’s interesting to watch people who are so disconnected from reality––actual reality. Watching that is fun for us.
But The Bachelor has a very special place in that it’s basically run to prop up all of these heteronormative ideals about relationships, dating, romance, and love. So I think that in terms of voyeurism, it’s really satisfying. It’s a fascinating, can’t-look-away sort of thing to watch.
Ingrid: And I do think it’s interesting to sort of insert ourselves in the text, right? Like to insert ourselves and our community into something that wasn’t made for us. And Toni and I definitely design the podcast to be lighthearted, and to create a playful space that’s fun for queer people, because a lot of content that’s made by us or for us ends up being really heavy.
Toni: There’s only so much space that queer narratives take up in media, and a big criticism I have is that a lot of it is so heavy and negative.
Ingrid: And trauma-based.
Toni: And trauma-based, and people take it so much more seriously because of that. So I think it’s just fun to check out, watching straight reality television––it’s just really fun to do.
Ingrid: It’s just fun!
Toni: It’s just fun, and talking about it is just fun. I think if we had to psychoanalyze why we like it, there would be elements of voyeurism and the political aspects of the franchise. But at the end of the day it’s just like, god, I love it.